When Your Child Does Not Want to Go to School
By Maya Fairbrook · Oct 18, 2026 · 6 min read
In a nutshell
Reluctance can stem from anxiety, bullying, or learning difficulties.
Most children sometimes say they do not want to go to school.
Persistent refusal needs attention.
Tip 1 Possible causes
- 💡 Anxiety
- 💡 Bullying
- 💡 Learning difficulties
- 💡 Friendship problems
- 💡 Changes at home
Tip 2 Listen
Ask open questions and listen without judgement.
Tip 3 Work with school
Teachers can help identify causes and create a plan.
Tip 4 Seek help
Your doctor can refer to support services if anxiety is significant.
Tip 5 Avoid long absences
Missing school can make returning harder, so try to keep attendance going where possible while addressing the cause. Schools may agree a gradual return plan, a quiet space for the start of the day, or a trusted adult to meet your child at the gate. Morning routines that are calm and predictable help. Avoid making staying home too rewarding — for example, with unlimited screen time.
Recognise and praise small steps, like getting to the gate or staying for the morning.
This is general parenting information, not medical advice. Every child is different — talk to your paediatrician, family doctor, or a qualified specialist about your child’s health, development, or behaviour. In an emergency, call your local emergency number.