Helping Kids Manage Anger
By Maya Fairbrook · Sep 14, 2026 · 6 min read
In a nutshell
Anger is a normal emotion. Children can learn ways to handle it safely.
Children get angry for many reasons, including unfairness, frustration, and tiredness.
Teaching coping strategies helps.
Tip 1 Recognise warning signs
Help children notice body signs of anger, like clenched fists or a hot face.
Tip 2 Coping tools
- đź’ˇ Deep breathing
- đź’ˇ Counting to ten
- đź’ˇ Moving to a calm space
- đź’ˇ Drawing or writing feelings
- đź’ˇ Physical activity
Tip 3 Talk afterwards
When calm, discuss what happened and what could help next time.
Tip 4 Model calm
Children learn by watching how adults handle anger. See our big emotions guide.
Tip 5 When anger becomes a concern
Occasional outbursts are normal. But if anger is frequent and intense, leads to hurting others or themselves, or interferes with school and friendships, seek support. Your child’s school, doctor, or a child mental health service can help identify underlying causes such as anxiety, learning difficulties, or stress at home.
Parenting courses can also offer practical strategies and support for families dealing with challenging behaviour.
This is general parenting information, not medical advice. Every child is different — talk to your paediatrician, family doctor, or a qualified specialist about your child’s health, development, or behaviour. In an emergency, call your local emergency number.